What Homeschooling Does to a Marriage


What does homeschooling do to a marriage? Are there particular stresses and strains present just because homeschooling adds its own issues into the family dynamic?

Fletch and I married in the summer between my junior and senior year of college. Weeks after I graduated, we headed off to San Francisco and he started dental school. I took a job as a nanny and taught at a performing arts school. And I felt lousy.

Nauseated, weak, spinning as if my world was being swallowed into a vortex. You know where this is going, don't you? I was pregnant with our firstborn.

It was stressful timing, to say the least, and by the time Fletch hit the graduation platform, we had a two-year-old and a newborn. We moved, he took a job, we plugged into a new church, we met new people. 

I was pregnant again. By the time I was 29, we had four children we adored and a dental practice with bills as large as our state deficit (this is California; I might be exaggerating).

We were homeschooling and sometime I'll tell you why this girl who said, "I will never, not ever homeschool" decided to homeschool. 

Baby 5, baby 6, miscarriage, baby 7, baby 8, and then the harrowing near-misses began - you can read those stories here.

But you have similar tales to tell, don't you? The trials we've weathered simply have a different name than the trials you've weathered, and the strains and stresses put upon a marriage just have a different hue. It's all rocky terrain.

Homeschooling adds: 

+ Children
+ Educational decisions
+Loss of income
+Feelings of Inadequacy
+Limited alone time
+Discipleship opportunities
+Much more time together

How does a marriage weather all that homeschooling adds? Is there any good to be had by adding full-time homeschooling to your family dynamic? Before we hit that topic on this week's podcast, we'd love to hear from you. 

What is the hardest thing about homeschooling? What positive dynamic has homeschooling leant to your marriage?